Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Letting Go of My Security Blanket

For all of my life I have worn my hair on the longer side.  Knowing that hair loss can be a side effect of weight loss surgery, that was  side effect I thought I was prepared to deal with, until it happened.  I'll never forget the day I was getting ready for work (3 months post op) and noticed the thinning of my hair.  I cried.  Boo-hoo-bucket tears.  It was soooooo thin.  I masked it as best as I could and resolved that, if necessary, I would get a sewn in weave.  Luckily it never got THAT bad and started to grow back after about 3 months.

The last time I got my hair relaxed I got the damaged ends cut off and had my hair layered (a style I love).  I kept it a medium length and immediately thought (when I got home) that I should have gone shorter.  In my mind, for the past 3 months, I have been envisioning myself with shorter hair.  So, today I finally bit the bullet and had it cut really short.  Here it is...
    

I have NEVER gone this short before, but I LOVE it.  I usually tear up when I get my hair cut, even if its my my choice, not by necessity.  Not even a hint of a tear this time.  

Of course the question everyone wants answered is why.  Why this short?  Why now?  The short answer is that I am turning 40 (God willing) next month and this is a part of the "new me."  The real answer is that I never felt secure enough with the way I looked to go short.  My hair was my security blanket.  It kept me shielded when I needed to be.  I could hide behind it.  Now that I have lost 80+ pounds and I have gained a bit of self esteem, I want to show me off, if that makes sense.  



Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Swimming Update

I was scheduled to begin swimming lessons on July 7th, however the organization I was taking classes through had to get approval to use the pool which took longer than anticipated, so the lessons were pushed back to July 14th.  July 14th came and the instructor didn't.  There was another instructor present, doing private swimming lessons who felt bad for us and gave us some basic tips on holding our breath, kicking our legs, and pushing off the wall to glide through the water.

This past weekend, the instructor did show up.  There was a mis-communication and while we (the students) were informed of the class, the instructor was not.  So my first "official" lesson went well.  I learned how to breathe underwater for an extended period of time, how to hold my breath (and let it out under water) while kicking my legs, how to move my arms, and how to put it all together and push off the wall and SWIM!  I really enjoyed myself and I'm looking forward to being as good as my little fish, Lyss.

Saturday, July 13, 2013

Love Wins

This post is totally unrelated to weight loss, however it something I am feeling compelled to post on.

I rarely watch tv, let alone the news, but I would have to live under a rock not to know about the Trayvon Martin case. The verdict in the case was handed down tonight and George Zimmerman was found "not guilty."  People are, understandably, upset and emotions are running rampant. And all I can do is what gets me through every tough time, turn to God. As I pondered whether or not to post something on Facebook, or respond to the numerous posts I read, I first turned to my daily reading of "Our Daily Bread."  And in today's reading I found a very fitting reference to Luke 6:27-36. I could never do justice to paraphrasing God's word, so take a moment and read it for yourself. Luke 6:27-36

It never ceases to amaze me how God will direct your (my) path if we are just still. Many of the things that happen in our world today are not for us to understand. I always have to remind myself that it is God's will, not my desire. Justice and retaliation are not ours. The Lord will see that any justice that needs to be served will be.

So where does that leave us?  There is a lesson in everything. We all have to find our individual lessons and grow. Were your first thoughts/feelings anger or hatred?  Pray to The Lord to remove those feelings from your heart and draw you closer to Him. When I am feeling overwhelmed by the happenings in our world today I am often taken back to the senseless killings of the teachers and students at Sandy Hook Elementary School on December 14, 2012. I follow the Facebook page of the parents of Ana Marquez-Green and am astounded at how their faith has gotten them through the most horrific nightmare that any parent can experience. The common theme though all of their posts is that love wins. You can choose to hate, or you can choose love. In the end, love will always win.

We are all in this together.  LOVE WINS!

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Thunder Thighs

About a month ago I posted this picture on a facebook group for sleevers with the caption "Trying to be comfortable with my thighs. Wore this to the gym early (before the crowd)."


 In the last month I have worked my ass off in the gym and at home doing a variety of leg strength exercises and have come to like my "thunder thighs."  Today when I exercise I can see the muscular definition in my thighs.  And though they aren't "little", they are the thighs I have worked so hard for.



I came across this, and thought it summed things up perfectly.


PS - Swimming lessons were postponed until next week.  I am all set to go! 

Sunday, June 30, 2013

Taking the plunge...

I just signed myself up for swimming lessons.  Yes, I'm 39 years old (will be turning 40 - God willing - in 2 months) and I do not know how to swim.

Growing up, the camps I attended had teenage counselors and my mother didn't trust them to teach me to swim, so I was always restricted to just sitting on the edge of the pool and putting my feet in the water.  Later, as an adult (who paid for my own hair to get done) I had no desire to swim and have to deal with my hair afterwards.  Then, as a married woman I reasoned that I was too fat for my husband to teach me to swim, and I didn't want to be seen in a bathing suit, so it was a definite no go.  At the root of all of these excuses was (and is) fear.  Fear of the unknown.  Fear of failure.  Irrational, base-less fear.

Not wanting my 6 year old daughter to grow up with my fears, I have had her in swim lessons for the past 2 years.  I watch how fearless she is and she has inspired me to take the plunge.  I'll keep you posted on how it goes...

Thursday, June 27, 2013

It's My Surgiversary!!

This will be a long one, so grab a snack or a drink, sit back and relax as I take you through the last year of my life...

One year ago I took that step from which there has been no turning back.  I remember it like it was yesterday.  I took my daughter to camp and gave her a big hug and kiss and prayed to God that I would live to see her again.  You see, I was voluntarily putting myself through an elective surgery, the vertical sleeve gastrectomy, in an effort to lose weight and become healthier.  I had been told a few months earlier that I was pre-diabetic, had high cholesterol, and was seriously deficient in vitamins D, B12, and iron.  I was a ticking time bomb and I didn't even know it.  But was this the right thing to do?  I lost 17 pounds on my own as I prepared for surgery.  Surely it I just gave it one more go, I could lose the weight.  Sure I could.  But it would inevitably come right back, just as it always had.  I owed it to myself and my family to go through with the surgery.  God had my back; He always does.

I arrived at Abington Memorial Hospital at the appointed hour and was prepared to wait (like hospitals/doctors always have you wait).  To my surprise I was whisked back to my preparation area (that looked like where you are seen in an emergency room).  The nurses came in for my vitals and then told me I needed to take a pregnancy test, just to be sure.  I assured her that I had taken one the night before, but off I went to pee in the cup.  Not pregnant, phew!  Next, came the most handsome Dr. G.  He reviewed exactly what we would be doing and wrote "VSG" on my tummy.  I thought it was so hilarious, but I appreciated it at the same time.  There would be no mistake of taking out anything other than 85% of my stomach.  I signed my release papers, said a final farewell to my parents, husband, and niece and I was rolled into the OR.  In the OR small talk was made and the next thing I knew I woke up in the recovery room nauseous as ever.  I couldn't move, I was scared to death, and I was thinking "did it work?"  The nurse gave me peppermint to sniff and that helped with the nausea, a little.  I had IV pain meds and was wheeled up to my room.  All I wanted was my family and they were no where around.  :(  It seemed to take forever, but they finally showed up.

Once the catheter was removed I knew the drill - walk and sip, walk and sip.  I did so many laps around that hospital floor I think I may have wore my own path, which is quite possibly still there today.  :)  I was given nothing to eat or drink that night, but did get a lemon flavored sponge to wet my mouth.  The next morning I was served "breakfast" - Propel water, jello, and broth.  If you think regular hospital food is bad, try bariatric surgery hospital food.  BLEH!!!  So, I sipped the Propel and then just plain old water.  By 11 am I refused all pain meds, as they made me nauseous and I didn't really need them.  That afternoon I was released to return to my surgeon's office in a week for follow-up.  Once home I continued the routine of walking and sipping . . . and the rest (as they say) is history.

Fast forward to this week, one year later.  I met with my surgeon 2 days ago and my nutritionist today.  My one year labs were FANTABULOUS!!!!!  I am no longer pre-diabetic, my sugar levels are low-normal; I no longer have high cholesterol, my LDL and HDL levels are PERFECT; my vitamin D level is on target; my B12 level is slightly elevated; I now have to cut back on the amount of those two vitamins; my iron level was a smigin low (11 vs normal 11.1), but my iron levels have historically been very low, so I'll take it.  My energy level is through the roof, and I could not be happier.  Well, that's not exactly true.  I could be happier if the damn scale would move more.  According to my surgeon, I have lost 64% of my excess body weight, but they go by my weight the day of surgery.  If you calculate from my highest weight, I have lost 71% of my excess body weight.  And while I realize that's nothing to sneeze at, like everyone on a weight loss journey I want more.  I want to hit my personal goal (to be a "normal" bmi).  I had a GREAT visit with my nutritionist today and the outcome was I'm still eating too many processed foods, I need to incorporate more fresh produce into my diet, I need to stop focusing on numbers and focus on quality.  And this is the biggest shocker to me - my macros ratio is now 25% protein, 25% healthy fats, and 50% complex carbs.  I have spent the last year minimizing carbs to the extent that I exclude many good for me foods.  I have been focused on the bottom line of calories, not the quality of calories.  This is a HUGE paradigm shift for me.

Okay, enough of the blah, blah, blah.  If you've made it this far, here are some before and after pics.  I have to choose one to submit for the hospital "wall of fame."  Which one would you choose?

                      The top pic is the pic where I finally "saw" myself and knew I needed to do something.
  
Top pics are just before surgery (maybe a month).
Top pic is 2009, bottom is a few weeks before my one year.

And finally, I have always wanted a "goal" tattoo that incorporates my surgery date.  Since I'm not at goal yet, I decided to get a surgiversary tattoo for my baby girl.  It's an infinity symbol on my inner wrist for my "baby" Alyssa.  I LOVE it!

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Exciting Stuff

Yesterday was a pretty exciting day for my family.  My baby girl (okay, she's not really a baby, she's six) "moved up" from kindergarten to first grade.  Where, oh, where have the last six years gone?

Here we are right before the ceremony...

Then, last night I got the call that Baby Hezekiah (my great nephew) made his grand entrance into the world. 

Happy Birthday, Hezekiah!!!